Welcome to The Death Cafe
What is Death Cafe?
At a Death Cafe people, often strangers, gather to eat cake, drink tea and discuss death.
Come and have a cup of coffee while we talk about things connected with Death.
The first one that I had we didn't notice the time going. The two hours passed so quickly!!
Come and see what the Death Cafe is all about, we have a lot of laughs there and memories of our loved ones.
We also talk about our own death and what we want to happen to us, and the service that we want at the funeral.
Hope to see you there.
Our objective is 'to increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their (finite) lives'.
A Death Cafe is a group directed discussion of death with no agenda, objectives or themes. It is a discussion group rather than a grief support or counselling session.
Our Death Cafes are always offered:
- On a not for profit basis
- In an accessible, respectful and confidential space
- With no intention of leading people to any conclusion, product or course of action
- Alongside refreshing drinks and nourishing food – and cake!
Death Cafes have spread quickly across Europe, North America and Australasia. As of today, we have offered 3723 Death Cafes in 38 countries since September 2011.
If 10 people came to each one that would be 37230 participants. Death Cafe's established both that there are people who are keen to talk about death and that many are passionate enough to organize their own Death Cafe.
Death Cafe has received some lovely media coverage including:
- Death Be Not Decaffeinated: Over Cup, Groups Face Taboo New York Times (front page!)
- Death Cafes Breathe Life Into Conversations About Dying NPR
- The death cafe movement: Tea and mortality Independent
- 'Death cafes' normalize a difficult, not morbid, topic USA Today
The first Death Cafe in the UK was offered in Jon's house in Hackney, East London in September 2011. It was facilitated by pychotherapist Sue Barsky Reid, Jon's mum. It was a wonderful occasion. We went on to offer Death Cafes in a range of places including funky cafes, people's houses, cemeteries, a yurt and the Royal Festival Hall.
Jon and Sue Barsky Reid produced a guide to running your own Death Cafe, based around the methodology Sue developed. This was published in Feb. 2012 and first person to pick it up outside of the UK was Lizzy Miles in Columbus, Ohio. Subsequently hundreds of people have worked with us to provide Death Cafes across the globe. Kim Wolfe is now one of them.
I posted this information right off of The Death Cafe Members Website. I am not going to have anyone contact you, try to sell you anything, and like this states, there is no hidden agenda.
I am going to ask for your participation whether you decide to attend or not is simply your call. If you know of a great speaker that can assist someone with end of life details such as legal on how to do a Last Will and Testament, A Hospice Professional that can discuss topics with this group, without trying to promote their business or sell anything to the participants of this group.
THERE IS NEVER ANY FEE TO ATTEND.
Everyone is responsible for their own tab as far as meals and refreshments.
I ask that participants refrain from alcohol prior and during the time we spend together.
‘It’s great to have time to ponder my thoughts and feelings about death and to listen to others’ experiences’
‘Thought provoking, reassuring, exciting, I’ll definitely come to another’
‘So wonderful to have the chance to start talking and listening about death - more of it!’
‘Reassuring in the universal diversity of experience’
‘Delightful group of people with a real willingness to share and openness to hear each other’
‘It has been excellent. I have really enjoyed the company, conversation and subject. It added to my knowledge and it was highly enjoyable.’
‘A beginning of a conversation: useful to open a door that I keep pretty closed’
‘Excellent, enjoyable and invigorating’
I have loved this, thank you so much. I often feel quite out of place in society because of my attitude towards death. It has been fantastic to meet some like-minded people.
‘Reinforcing ideas that have been barely discussed, and to some extent normalising them.’
‘Friendly, informative, unafraid’
‘Thought provoking, friendly, supportive’
‘It felt that we made a good start and that there is so much more scope for further discussion.’
If you or someone you know would be interested in providing a room, refreshments, please let me know.
If you would like to leave a comment for ideas for topics or to inquire where I host my Death Cafe, please comment below.