How It Works ...

WEEK ONE - THE INFORMATIONAL TALK

I will introduce to you how The Grief Recovery Method is different from a Grief Support Group.  

​

A Support Group is simply an on going, come and go for grievers to have a place to talk about their loss over cookies and coffee. There losses are more likely about the death of a loved one - Period. 

​

Members sometimes leave these groups feeling worse than when they started.  Support groups can be useful in the beginning of your healing journey, as people who are grieving need to tell their story.  

 

The Grief Recovery Method is an action based program that will meet for 6 weeks. 

We will start with a group, and then partner with another to discuss privately each week's assignment.  This partnership will remain throughout the entire course. 

 

Each person is dealing with something very personal to them and it may not be about a death.  We are not comparing Losses, we are learning to be a heart with ears to one another.  This is a very powerful part of our own healing as we are also helping someone else while healing our own loss. 

​

WEEK TWO - DISCOVERY WEEK

Those that have made the decision that The Grief Recovery Method is a good fit and that they are ready to be well, learn about the guidelines of being totally honest and confidential. 

 

No Facebook or any other forms of social media are accepted or tolerated. 

This is where begin to un-learn everything we have been taught about grief and loss.  

​

WHAT HAPPENS IN GRIEF RECOVERY, STAYS IN GRIEF RECOVERY!

​

An incomplete past may doom the future and we learn there are NO STAGES OF GRIEF for grievers.  We learn about hurtful words from well- meaning people, short term energy relief behaviors - (a.k,a. S.T.E.R.B.S.) that time does not heal all wounds, and how some people use grief to get what they want through manipulation.

​

The group gets their copy of the The Grief Recovery Handbook, a folder, kleenex, pen and homework assignments and are partnered for their break out sessions.  

​

WEEK THREE - CHOOSING TO RECOVER.

Discussion will cover - Who is responsible for their broken heart?  Will they partner or work alone?  Finding a partner that is a good fit.  Making commitments and the initial partner meeting.  They discuss the weekly homework assignments together.  Then we all re-group to discuss the breakthrough moments, revelations or disagreements regarding the assignment for that week.  

​

WEEK FOUR - THE LOSS HISTORY GRAPH.

The group is now closed to any new members.  The loss history graph allows each person to recall their earliest memory.  This is where the rubber begins to hit the road.  This is to allow each member of the group to personally discover all the array of loss they have had in their life up until today.  This is the week where we begin to explore the heaviness of the emotional backpack we have been carrying around since childhood.  

​

WEEK FIVE - THE RELATIONSHIP GRAPH

This is a time where you will begin to see all the unresolved relationships up until today.  People come and go in our lives, some left behind fond memories, and some left much hurt, anger, resentment, and that needs to be addressed in order to heal our hearts.

​

WEEK SIX - COMPLETION

This is where we begin to convert the relationship graph into components.  We will learn about the power of forgiveness, apologies, being a victim, and make some significant emotional statements.  This is a week of pulling it all together. 

​

This is the week of total breakthrough!  The group breaks out with their partners to do the reading of "The Letter"  This is very emotional for each participant.  When the group reforms, I witness the red, swollen eyes give way to the light and truth.  The relief and closure they discuss openly about the hard work, the emotional drain and the sudden relief are always shared as people state the following:

​

• I feel so relieved.

• Reading my letter gave me a freedom I've never experienced.

• Writing the letter was very thought provoking, and emotionally hard at times.  Yet my heart feels like it finally has the much needed space for things like joy, peace and happiness.

• Gratitude.  I felt so grateful to be able to have a tool that helped me say the things I never got to say.  

• Writing the letter gave me the closure I needed.  I had so many thoughts running through me about how I could have, should have and would have done things differently.

• I felt drained in a good way after writing my letter.  I had no idea I was feeling so many different emotions.  Not all of them were healthy for me - It felt amazing to release it all. Saying goodbye to all that pain in my past - Finally, I felt free again.

​

CELEBRATE FREEDOM

​

This is the final meeting.  This is where each member will receive a Certificate of Completion Award.  The group usually wants a time to come together, exchange telephone numbers, emails, etc and stay in touch with each other.  

​

We decide to meet outside of the regular meeting place.  We usually reserve a table at a local restaurant and have a final meal together and fellowship together.  This is a time to discuss the future of the new normal we now are living and realizing we are not alone.  

​

We finish strong with our final group hug!  Here's to your choice to heal.

​

Schedule your free call today.  Just click on the calendar at the top and let's talk about everything.  

​

From my heart to yours ... Kim